What do you do when the person you normally trust with things suddenly becomes the problem? When the person you love most becomes the person you need help dealing with?
It happens over and over. For me, two of the big ones:
Breaking up with my boyfriend.
My first reaction was to call him and tell him some jerk guy broke my heart. Then I remembered that it was him.
My anorexic best friend.
I usually talk to her about everything. She knows all my secrets and I know hers. But now, just looking at her makes me feel sick. It makes me so sad and it makes me feel angry. Angry at the world, angry at her parents, angry at everyone who has ever hurt her– now they’ve hurt me, too.
Time heals. With those two, my best friend is in recovery and we’re now as close as ever before. With my ex, we don’t talk anymore, but I’m okay with that. I’ve moved on.
But how long does it take to heal? And what do you do in the meantime?
This past weekend another relationship has broken for me. To simplify a complicated situation, I spent a very long night taking care of a very drunk best friend. She is okay, but it took more out of me both physically and mentally than I had. I’ve now shut down and am trying to recover and find my life again. I’m really hurt by the way things happened, and I’m really angry.
I hate being angry with her– I still love her so much. But right now I am not okay.
I have other friends who I’m talking to. I am taking care of myself. Everything will heal in time.
How long will it take? What do I need to do? I’m an impatient person.